Big topic today. I’m going to cover a lot so stick with it because, if you get your head around this, it’s going to completely change your relationships. I have made significant progress repairing the fractured relationships in my life precisely because of this concept. We’re talking about projection.

Are there people in the world who are inherently evil? Is it even possible to quantify what good or evil is? I am not denying that people cause harm and suffering to each other. But how much of that can really be placed on the shoulders of an individual, and how much is a product of our environment and history? Is it even possible to break this cycle of hurt and blame? Or, at least, what’s the most empowering perspective we can find to guide us in our dark times?

While I was at training the other morning, one of my sparring partners was, he was beating me up to be fair, he was dominating, and he started cranking my face with his shoulder. It’s a bit of a shitty move but definitely effective.

I’m reading a book, called The Wild Edge of Sorrow, by Francis Weller. He talks about how, in Western Culture, we have become so separated from tools and processes that help us to fully express and metabolise our grief.

I’m going to start this with a bit of backstory. Because, well… I had a breakdown at the start of 2021, that plunged me into a dark place for, well over a year. In the previous 9 months since the start of covid, my life had gone from absolutely amazing to a total train wreck. And I didn’t understand why.

Today I’m going to make a lemon meringue pie. I’ve never made one before and I don’t have a recipe. But we’re gonna give it a go…

I recently read an amazing book by Robert A. Johnson, called He: Understanding Masculine Psychology. It’s a short read but I found it fascinating. He maps out the, story arc, if you will, of male psychological development using a version of the myth of the holy grail as the underlying narrative.

The concept of over-indulgence, repression or balance is an idea that we can consider in all areas of our lives. What we eat and drink, how much sex we’re having, what we buy, how much we work, our spiritual journey…

I was at a mens group meetup this week. Mens groups, mens circles can be support groups, self development, spiritual groups that provide an outlet where men can share their struggles and challenges, open up and express what they are going through without fear of judgment.

At the start of 2020 I thought I had it all figured out. I’d just started a big work contract that I expected would supply the deposit for me to buy my own place. I’d recently begun a relationship with a girl I was crazy about. Life was great and I was excited about the future. But then…